‘PERSONAL’ity

We had a session on ‘Personality’ by Neeraj Gaba, our new HR. Initially we had a brief discussion on what really personality is. There were varied thoughts over the word ‘Personality’. Some thought that it is the way person presents himself to others; some thought it to be the built up of a person physically and mentally towards society.

My thought on personality was; it is the way a person behaves talks, thinks and communicates. Majority of us thought that personality is the way a person behaves, in the society for the society. But by the end of the session we all came to conclusion that it is not the society, which determines an individuals personality; but it is a very ‘personal’ aspect of ones self.

Many aspects were covered during the session, which were the key points, helping one, to become a better person.

There are many decisions, which elders take for us, may it be in what stream we should study, what career we should choose or even to whom we should marry; even if these decisions are against our will.

It happens many times in our life, especially at the younger age that we are compared to others, by our parents, partner, neighbors, colleagues or even we sometimes compare our self with others.

There are so many things in life, we unwillingly compromise or sacrifice to respect or be in the relation.

But at the end , when we recall back what all we have done, we find that all the years we have lived were either for the happiness of our parents, kids, partner or for society.

And then comes the question……..

Where am I, in all this? After doing all this, am I really happy? Is this I wanted to do, my whole life?

Your answer will tell you, if you have lived a better life or not. You might have been a better person for others throughout your life, but it is the ‘inner you’, who will tell you the truth about, how your life was lived. Was it based on false pride, showoff, commitments or values or really true to heart and in which ‘you’ believed?

As we discussed, we came across some very important points, which if we try to inculcate in our life, they would lead us towards a happy and successful life. These points would also help us become a better person, revealing our true personality; ‘inside’ as well as ‘outside’.

1. You are ‘UNIQUE’ in this world. No other person can match your brains, talent and art. That means, even you can’t be like some one else. So stop comparing yourself with others, and don’t let anyone do that.

Still if you are fond of comparing……..for a change…….try comparing yourself. Try boosting your skills so that you are better in them.

2. Nothing in this world is right or wrong or even perfect; it is the perspective of every individual at that particular instance, which makes him think so.

So remove that fear, never mind if you do mistakes; but see to it that they are reduced next time.

3. Relations are built on honesty and trust. Don’t do anything you dislike, just to keep the relation. Being true to yourself, will make your relation more strong.

4. Try putting yourself in others shoes. You will start realizing their situation or problems and help becoming, an understanding person.

Giving respect will automatically bring back respect, respect, may it be in form of speech, gestures or behavior.

5. Be a responsible person in your life. Whatever you do in your life, if good happens it’s because of your decisions, if bad happens, it’s because of your decisions.

6. Before taking any major decision in your life, give enough time to think over it.

Trying to do the above things will surely bring out a better person out of you, and live a successful life. Personality, after all is not a superficial thing, which becomes great by wearing expensive cloths and talking hi-fi, but a very ‘personal’ thing to develop upon.
It is the ‘Inner You’ which determines your ‘Outer’ presence. So working over it will definitely bring out an impressive ‘Personality’ out of you.

Thank you Neeraj Gaba, for educating us, with such an important session, showing us a nice approach to success.